‘You Gotta Own It’ — Travis Kelce Shares His No-Nonsense Dating Advice Two Years After Shooting His Shot With Taylor Swift

From friendship bracelets to forever.

Two years after famously shooting his shot with Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce is passing on the dating wisdom that changed his life — and it’s refreshingly simple.

The Kansas City Chiefs star, now 36 and engaged to Swift, got candid during a special hotline episode of the New Heights, where he and brother Jason Kelce answered listeners’ questions about love, confidence, and how to ask someone out without overthinking it.

💬 “Figure Out What You Like About Her”

When a caller asked for advice on asking a girl out, Travis didn’t hesitate.

“First you gotta figure out what you like about her,” he explained.
“Do you like the way she looks? The way she dresses? How funny she is? How kind she is?”

Once you’ve figured that out, he says, say it out loud.

“Compliment that thing,” Travis advised.
“That’ll get you in the door — or at least let you gauge how she reacts.”

According to Kelce, a genuine compliment isn’t just flattering — it’s a conversation starter that shows clear interest without games.

❌ Jason’s Joke — And Travis Shuts It Down

Jason, 38, jokingly chimed in with what he called “the old Ed Kelce tip-off,” referencing advice from their dad that involved befriending a girl’s less-attractive friend first.

Travis immediately shut it down.

“Do not listen to that advice,” he said firmly.
“That is the 1950s way of dating. That’s bogus.”

Instead, both brothers agreed on something far more direct.

💪 “Ask Her Out. That’s It.”

Jason kept it blunt:

“Here’s what you do — you ask her out.”

Travis doubled down with his most quoted line of the episode:

“You just gotta do it, man. You gotta own it.
You gotta have some cojones. What’s the worst she’s gonna say? No?”

His message? Fear of rejection shouldn’t stop anyone from being honest.

🎯 Always Have a Plan

While confidence matters, Travis also stressed the importance of having a destination in mind.

“Have something in the back pocket,” he said.
“A conversation starter, then a nice segue into hanging out — the movies, the mall, wherever.”

In other words:
Don’t just ask if she wants to hang out.
Ask where you’re taking her.

“That’s enticing,” Travis added. “Then go from there.”

😅 “Figure It Out On Your Own”

Despite all the advice, Travis couldn’t resist a final joke:

“If you’re asking advice from us, you better figure it out on your own.”

Jason agreed, saying there’s ultimately no trick to dating.

“If you like her, say, ‘Hey, I was thinking about seeing this movie — would you like to go with me?’ Then see what happens.”

💕 The Advice That Built a Love Story

Fans were quick to note the irony — and the proof — behind Travis’s words.

Back in 2023, Kelce famously attended Swift’s Eras Tour, later revealing on New Heights that he’d been disappointed he couldn’t meet her or give her a friendship bracelet with his phone number on it.

That podcast moment went viral — and changed everything.

“This all started when Travis very adorably put me on blast on his podcast,” Swift later told TIME.
“We started hanging out right after that.”

The couple went public later that year and announced their engagement in August 2025.

🧠 Simple Advice, Proven Results

No games.
No gimmicks.
No overthinking.

Just confidence, honesty — and actually asking.

Two years on, with a ring on his finger and a wedding on the horizon, Travis Kelce’s dating advice comes with one unbeatable credential:

it worked.

👇 READ MORE — inside the Kelce brothers’ funniest hotline moments and why fans say Travis’ advice is ‘surprisingly perfect’ 👇